Fellow bruja Ariel introduced me to true hunger in July '17 and it has been the only bit of nutritional advice I have ever needed, ever. That's big, coming from a IIN grad. Cravings are the best notification system your body has. Respect your cravings, don't fear them - and see what happens. Love you!
Here we are at the end of another year.2017 was my most productive year ever. I launched three workshops, wrote a book, met the man of my dreams (and got pregnant!), sent a proposal to a publisher, stopped taking one on one clients (Hello, passive income!), and really stepped into my own as a teacher.
If you follow me on @thebrujareport , you know that I live my life inside out. Meaning, I don't expect anything to change outside unless I've changed something inside. Here are the 17 inner shifts I made, that made 2017 my most productive year - ever.
Danielle LaPorte never ceases to amaze me, she made a list like this which inspired mine, and I suggest you check it out here!
1.) Dropped the guilt around my creative process.
Try being creative while simultaneously judging yourself for HOW you stay creative. I spent years, especially 2016 berating my creative process. "I'm unfocused.", "I leave things to the last minute." ,"I get distracted" ,"People can't handle my work mode, they call me crazy" (P.S. Drop them.). When I stopped trying to "fix" my process, and just LET IT BE MY PROCESS - the results were epic. Your feelings are your choice, and the only person who can make you feel guilty - is you. Eradicate guilt everywhere you can, but start with your creativity, especially if you want to make money on it.
2.) Grief Recovery Method.
I spent my last dollars (literally), moving to Keller, Texas in January to do Grief Recovery with this woman. Bad news: She doesn't do Skype, very few certified Grief Recovery facilitators do. Good News: They all do the same method, for the same price. $495 for seven weeks, and as low as $10 a session if you get in a group. You can find one near you through the official site.
When I stopped avoiding my sadness and learned how to grieve, my whole life changed. You can also read the book.
3.) Took Saturdays off.
Overworking is FEAR (connected to the "hard work = money" belief system). If you can't take a day off because you're afraid nothing will get done if you're not grinding your face off - you're going to have to address it. Leave your phone at home and immerse yourself in something unrelated to your job. This might take practice. Rest ethic is the new work ethic. You can wait for a catalyst, or take conscious time off in 2018.
4.) Addressed the things I said I'd do, and never did.
Want self-esteem? Do esteemable things. The far-reaching benefits of this practice are too good to miss. It is one of the most potent tools for freeing yourself from shame. Peep a one minute video from the archives on this here.
5.) Felt the fear, and did it anyways.
Launching my first workshop scared me shitless. Launching my second did too. Dropping one-on-one clients (my bread and buttah) terrified me, as did buying my first truck (and a camper!) and hitting the road. I was scared shitless about dropping a proposal off at my publisher, doing my first exorcism, and signing a lease on my first house alone (for 2k a month). All of these things scared me, but I did them anyways. At the end of the day there's only two thought sources, fear and faith. Go beyond fear.
6.) Stopped manifesting, started praying.
You have to know how to manifest (Spirituality 101) in order to develop the trust needed to stop manifesting (Spirituality 2.0) I was getting everything I was manifesting, and when it would show up - it wouldn't make me happy. Giving up manifesting means relinquishing control and trusting that whatever is in control - loves you and wants you to be happy. I changed my prayers from what I thought I wanted to praying that the outcome would be of the highest service to all concerned. I allowed the Universe to surprise me, trusting that it knew what I liked. On @thebrujareport I talk a lot about praying to Divine Feminine - aka bitching to God. The results...wow.
7.) Created passive income in my business.
Passive income is the exact opposite of "hard work = money". It is a MINDSET. If you did my *passive income* money course Breaking Broke you learn all about the deep roots of this belief, and also the three-step manifesting process. Expect to power through all your doubts about working hard for money. Expect to constantly evaluate where you're losing time. Expect to veer far outside of your comfort zone and push people out of theirs. It might take a minute - but it WILL work.
8.) Got real about my time.
How much time am I actually on Instagram waiting to be "ready" for meditation? How much time am I spending answering DM's?How much time am I spending taking free calls from non-friends? How much time am I actually taking calls from friends who are fairly comfortable in perpetual crisis mode? How much time am I spending worrying about the well-being of my family? How much time and money can I save myself and my clients by converting as much $$ conversation into digital lectures as possible? My time is my currency, and my ass was broke! Hello airplane mode! Remember the only person who can make you feel guilty (about missing their call) is you.
9.) Upped my food budget.
If regular kale is $1.99 and organic is $2.50, and you can't validate getting the better option (even though it's the fuel that powers the most important thing in your life - you!) - then you aren't worth fifty cents to yourself. I know what it's like to be broke - way broke. But I also know you can eat good quality beans, good quality rice, and good quality greens for under $30 a week. Use the mantra: "there's plenty more where that came from" every time you buy anything. The Universe wants you fed well. You're not a snob for wanting food thats grown in a way that's good for the environment, the grower, the eater, and the operation it's sold under. Only person saying there's not enough, is you.
10.) Accepted my body as is.
I dropped all diets (big deal for an Integrative Nutrition alum) and demonizing foods like gluten and sugar. I let the philosophy of "whatever I resist, will persist.". I applied my research of true hunger, prayed for Spirit to help me free up some mental bandwidth where all the food strategizing used to be, and gave my body permission to go to it's unedited version. Best move ever. What I learned became the basis of my video "How to love yourself when you hate yourself".
11.) Trimmed my social circle way down.
If you love me, don't try to change me. If I love you, I won't try to change you. I assessed all the relationships I felt would be better if one fundamental thing was different, and dropped them (potential is not love). Then I took stock of the relationships where I got shit for being exactly the way I was. Being a solution-based thinker means if you want someone to "vent" to with no intention of strategizing a solution in that same conversation - don't call me. I've been called insensitive, selfish, weird, and a host of other things for my refusal to tolerate negativity in my circle. As spiritual people we can stay in abusive situations way too long because we see our proficiency at recovering from shit flung at us as a learning experience. You can learn from any abuse, my dear, or you could just surround yourself with people you like and that like you AS IS.
12.) Gave up on worrying if it would all work out.
Even if you're uncomfortable now, you know that in hindsight you'll see that you're happy it went down the way that it did because it taught you X and brought you to where you needed to be. Did you know you can just cut straight to that mindset? Try it.
13.) Had gratitude for where I was.
When your 100k followers show up, you'll deal with pissing off 5k people as opposed to 5. When dream bae shows up, and he/she will, half your closet, half your time, and half (okay 3/4) of your epic masturbation sessions will go with it. New level, new devil. Enjoy where you are. You always have exactly what you need to do what you need right now. If I had all the clients I manifested I would be 5 months pregnant and up to my eyes in open contracts. If I had had 10k in February I would be chasing the wrong guy halfway through Europe instead of being in the path of the right one. You're exactly where you're meant to be.
14.) Asked "Am I doing this for approval?" before I did anything.
15.) Broke up with my teachers, and trusted my own work.
Bye-bye weird-ass and demanding kundalini practice. See you later, Chani Nicholas. Adios, 7-year Tarot teacher. I stopped inputting and started integrating. I meditated, a LOT. The result? An education that would define my career in 2017, and open me up to the abundance, love, and vitality that had been waiting for me all along.
16.) Narrowed my skin care products down to one.
Coconut oil. On my face, in my hair, on my body. The only person who benefitted from this more than me was my mom, who got a barrel of Kiehl's.
17.) Told a bae to fuck off, and the right one was just a moment away.
If he ain't calling you, drop him. If he has a list of reasons as to why he can't be with you, drop him. If he says he's not available, drop him. Out there there is someone who will live to make you happy, and as long as you're happy with mediocrity he can't show up. Like Cardi B said: Indecision is a decision. Accept it for what it is, and leave.