photo by @andreadabene
Literally all my dreams for all my life. What do you desire?
You can manifest your perfect partner, did you know that?
If you dreamed of getting married when you were little, the qualities you favored in a person (e.g. Honor, gentleness, being around, not yelling or putting too many rules on you aka being like your dad, NOT being like your dad) at that age probably still hold up, you're still looking for this.
Why? Because kids are intuitive, they haven't accumulated decades worth of ego and fear. You see what matters most to you, and what your true desire is.
So in a way you and I always been manifesting our partners, calling them to us, but didn't know. Your perfect partner is looking for you, just as hard and with just as much frustration as you have faced when things didn't work out.
On some level you have always known you deserve better...
Every time a relationship would turn into turmoil, doesn't matter whose fault it was, I would dream of a "movie" relationship free of the lying, cheating, addiction, codependency, and unexpressed hurt (aka anger) and caretaking all my other relationships seemed to require.
My self-worth issues told me this wasn't possible. The dysfunctional relationships that surrounded me told me not to get my hopes up.
Practicing holding onto a vision and not accepting less is the difference between fantasizing and manifesting, not much more.
Set standards and take inspiration from anywhere. Like @andreadabene.
Allow yourself to dream and fantasize, like you were a kid again. Be romantic, have high hopes, hold out! Hook up with people you like, but don't get tied down. If you're with the wrong person, the right person cannot find you. Dream your little life away. Don't limit yourself or shit on your ideas. You want a tree house and three kids with berries all over their faces? Great. Make a mental note that you wan an available man who wants to procreate and isn't a complete pussy about being outdoors. This is stuff you need to know so you stop settling, and it's fun!
Again. If you are letting someone who is not up to your standards take up all your time, you will not be available for your perfect partner to find you. If you're not happy, haven't been happy, know you should probably go but are scared it's the best it's going to get? You're settling. Go get more.
Breakup regrets? No. They weren't right for you and you weren't right for them. Thank god you both stepped out of the way.
Now: What dark patterns of relationships last were your fault, and do you plan on bringing them into your life partnership? Good time to quit smoking, stop doing blow, start sleeping more, stop going through phones or looking up exes on IG, whatever. How can you love yourself more.
I trust I'm worth unconditional love for the first time in my life, I'm holding out for the the real deal and I have a whole lot of issues from all my relationships and I certainly don't want to bring them into my life partnership, so i'm cleaning them up now. By getting clear on what my standards are, I know what work I need I do for myself before I can even handle a Mature Adult Man. I'm clearing up some ancient issues, like the text thing: "do I need a guy that texts me all the time or do I need to be the kind of woman who doesn't need constant validation from texts?".
"Do I need to lose 10lbs to look as hot as possible for when My Husband gets here or do I need to stop thinking anyone besides my ego cares about ten pounds of adipose cells when I am a magnificent Spirit made up of space material and I have awareness, and a great ass."
Manifesting your partner is serious work, I'm not saying this is @andreadabene 's relationship, just that I require the kind of man who is down to adventure with me always and I won't settle for less. I'm worth it , and I become more worth it the weirder I get.
They're looking for you as long as you've been looking for them. Do YOUR work, and trust that every time you honor your true self